When I first started playing (back in 2007) I'll admit I was a bit 'leery' of the 'cross-gender' pirate... espically since the game was new and everyone was on their first pirate, I wondered why someone would do that...
(Note here: Though 'leery' - I was never against it, it was more wondering than anything and never said anything to a few that I did meet - only because I felt that in a virtual world - be what you want

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Now, I don't even think about it - I know several 'gender-switched' pirates, all are good people, and have never even given it a thought in some time until you actually posted this
I think ya just gotta take it with a grain of sand and play on