I personally enjoy going to a busier server and going to Tormenta to crew up and fight. I was on Abassa one night with a nice, friendly, fun crew and we were in the area with Kelpbrains and Brinescums. This one girl refused to crew with us, even after pretty much everyone asked her, and went about her business with the guys in the Spineskull room. We soon moved to the Seabeard/Molusk room and she followed us, but kept complaining about us rep stealing even though she was the one running into the middle of our fights.
I pointed out what I thought was exceedingly obvious: if you're on Abassa, you are not the only person on the server. I said she was more than welcome to crew with us as well. I wasn't sure what she was getting at (I also checked and she was not on SpeedChat) and I wasn't sure why she thought we were the ones doing any sort of stealing. We just all ignored her and after a point she ran to somewhere else and stopped telling us we were stealing.
Long story short (argh, too late!): I feel that if you are on a busy server you should expect at least one person to be running up to your enemies and should either crew/offer to crew and deal with it, or teleport. If you are on a quiet server, I find rep stealing to be a totally different story as I've experienced many times over that one random person running into your fights tends to be the person that refuses to crew and always follows you to another area.
I've learned mostly to ignore the people and either teleport or find something else to fight if they aren't willing to join me. But then again, I was also raised to have manners and it's painfully obvious that many people in the game were not. Thankfully most of these people we will never have to deal with outside of the game.
