Don't worry, not all of us are that crazy
Ahoy Rosa! Welcome aboard the forums, and to POTCO as well! My name is Captain Del, and I am but one of the many fine pirates that browse this site, and one of the millions of pirates that roam this game! The game can be quite overwhelming at first, but once you start to find your way around, you really then start to enjoy it.
If I may suggest, because you are farely new to the game, you might want to look for a guild to join either in game, or here, on the forums. All the guilds that have subforums have their own forums listed under the Guilds and Clans section, while all other guilds that also choose to make this place their own have their own thread in the Guilds and Clans Forum, under the same section. Be sure to look around, and find one that may suit you the best
Also, as for Tia Dalm, she can be found on the island of Cuba. If you go to your World Map by hitting "M," Cuba can be found due West of Port Royal. Sail there, and port. Once ported, head towards the wall of swamp trees you find at the very end of the little swamp area. There will be a ramp there, which you can take in to the Pantamo River. This is where Tia is
Good luck in your adventures! If you ever need anything, just ask.
Kick back, relax, and grab a bottle of rum. Happy pirating, mate!